I had a much-needed 48 hours in L.A. recently and had the chance to catch up with some of my girlfriends that I haven’t seen in a while. You have to know that whenever women get together the conversation always turns to relationships and boy did we have LOTS to talk about. As one girlfriend is in a new relationship, she shared about being disappointed that an evening together after not seeing each other for a while didn’t turn out as she expected.
And that’s when I had an A-HA moment…
When we set expectations, are we really setting ourselves up to be disappointed? Think about it…how many times have you had an expectation for what you wanted and yet, it didn’t turn out anything like what you had hoped? Not only that, but when we have such high hopes for something, we ultimately miss other opportunities and happenings going on because we’re so focused on that one thing we want so bad.
Someone once told me a great piece of advice that I often repeat to myself when it comes to relationships…enjoy it for what it is and don’t expect more. I love this as I’d much rather live in the moment than have an expectation that may or may not ever become reality. When we script out our lives, conversations, events, etc. we’re unable to fully appreciate what is happening in real-time.
I think expectations ultimately bring more disappointment than joy. We can definitely have hopes and dreams but there’s an extra level of pressure when those hopes and dreams become expectations. Be careful out there friends…I don’t want you to be disappointed.